tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post1676260280729134203..comments2023-10-20T04:45:50.849-05:00Comments on O Mighty Crisis: Jocelynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03227519811818290510noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-64022139498332637682007-09-10T14:26:00.000-05:002007-09-10T14:26:00.000-05:00It sounds as if this guy was so wrong for your mot...It sounds as if this guy was so wrong for your mother that the "universe" or whatever stepped in to save her, since she was unable to do so herself.<BR/><BR/>I read this with such empathy for you, and also for my own children who were forced to put up with a boorish and cruel tyrant during my long years as a single mother. I had been so wounded by those before him, starting with my family, that I was desperate for affection. <BR/><BR/>I cringe mightily when I think back to those horrible years, and feel deeply ashamed to have inflicted my insecurities on the people I loved most, my children.<BR/><BR/>I hope your mother has found someone worthy of your family this time. I'm sure that she is still the person you remember inside, and hopefully she has reconnected with herself again.<BR/><BR/>It is very difficult to keep quiet when someone spews prejudiced remarks in your home. I have been there, too, and felt as conflicted as you and Groom did. Atrocious table manners are also impossible to overlook because you can't correct your children without seeming to apply a double standard. Of course, you are not responsible for the manners of other "adults."<BR/><BR/>Great post, Jocelyn. Nobody writes better than you. I love coming here.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-64840648910580621652007-09-04T16:56:00.000-05:002007-09-04T16:56:00.000-05:00The worst thing about your blog is that you write ...The worst thing about your blog is that you write really long posts and I have to read every word.<BR/>The best thing about your blog is that you write really long posts and I have to read every word.<BR/><BR/>I've got a horrible feeling that I am going to have to read this post again. I think that I'm in danger of becoming like your mum in 20 years or so.cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00075735967153709260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-9220812246562868812007-09-03T23:14:00.000-05:002007-09-03T23:14:00.000-05:00You are the best damn writer. And you always make...You are the best damn writer. And you always make me cry. But, I'm a sap so it's not entirely your fault. =P I've found in life that divorce can really change your parents as you knew them. It's still hard for me to get around my mother's tolerance of my stepfather and his family. I'm really not sure I'll ever understand it all. *sigh*<BR/><BR/>Great post as usual!!!Ann(ie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00671535020245819924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-1605870572002098672007-09-03T17:10:00.000-05:002007-09-03T17:10:00.000-05:00Wow. These past few posts have been so amazingly i...Wow. These past few posts have been so amazingly insightful-- I can't even begin to imagine what you went through in those years, and how you managed to keep the love of family going despite all these enormous changes. It is hard to see you mother, of all people, making such fatal errors.Princess Pointfulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10911296163218358167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-70177639443017844172007-09-03T17:05:00.000-05:002007-09-03T17:05:00.000-05:00You negotiated well in a tough situation. I guess...You negotiated well in a tough situation. I guess we never know how lonely it is when we lose a mate and what we're willing to trade off to secure another or "settle". It is sad when people compromise principles. Hope your mom fares better this time 'round.<BR/><BR/>Nice post.Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-29866364283772726962007-09-03T08:34:00.000-05:002007-09-03T08:34:00.000-05:00I've been thinking that I might be an adult, too. ...I've been thinking that I might be an adult, too. Actually I've been thinking that I might be turning into an old lady. Lately I've been so exhausted by 8pm, I'm pretty much ready for bed. Next time I'm at the salon, I might ask to have my hair dyed blue.choochoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17994404946009103090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-90750420966714405342007-09-03T08:04:00.000-05:002007-09-03T08:04:00.000-05:00you have to write a book--- every post you do, I a...you have to write a book--- every post you do, I am immediately drawn in and can't look away until I am done--- even if the little Drama is yowling!franniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05563502061531199609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-77718781039419527422007-09-02T22:37:00.000-05:002007-09-02T22:37:00.000-05:00"something that's been known to happen after bagpi..."something that's been known to happen after bagpipe concerts"<BR/><BR/>Dammit, Jocelyn, you're not allowed to make me burst out laughing while the man is bleeding from his ears and his lips are turning blue.robkroesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14731849693307953813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-59059697721150759652007-09-02T22:01:00.000-05:002007-09-02T22:01:00.000-05:00My step-mom-in-law uses the N word. A lot. And hon...My step-mom-in-law uses the N word. A lot. And honestly, I think she uses it especially often around us because she knows it makes us cringe. For the sake of family harmony I don't say anything. That makes me cringe too, and also hate myself a little. <BR/><BR/>These stories are fascinating to read. Your poor mom. You're right, of course. She must have been terribly lonely. <BR/><BR/>Groom's a CUTIE!!Whippersnapperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05644304287080536342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-42228514010836801412007-09-02T21:58:00.000-05:002007-09-02T21:58:00.000-05:00Excellent as always.Best wishesExcellent as always.<BR/>Best wishesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-39047337265956879682007-09-02T21:14:00.000-05:002007-09-02T21:14:00.000-05:00What timing for this post! Today I met my father's...What timing for this post! Today I met my father's ex girlfriend from when he was in his early 20s. They are going on holiday together. And although i find the whole situation somewhat odd, luckily she is no Beau. Definitely a nice Irish lady. But way too skinny.Emma in Canadahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17058142553612290594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-499839457337843372007-09-02T14:10:00.000-05:002007-09-02T14:10:00.000-05:00I can really relate -in the whole "geewhiz things ...I can really relate -in the whole "geewhiz things sure have changed" Department. Long story short, My mother was alternately a good mom, a bad mom, an ok mom, a bad mom. I left at age 17 for the opposite coast. Then she was an ok and sometimes good mom. Now she is old and I am middle aged. She has morphed into a strangely child-like creature. She calls every week and tells me every little detail of her life and doctor's appointments. I am grudgingly taking the high road and trying not to think of all the times I was ignored. I am doing the Right thing.<BR/>This is what it seems to me you are doing as well. What else can we do with the women who gave us life?Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10740049258265150141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-81805439038204260192007-09-02T10:04:00.000-05:002007-09-02T10:04:00.000-05:00Kudos to you for taking the high road with your Mo...Kudos to you for taking the high road with your Mom's Beau. It must have been very hard and I don't know that I would have had the same Grace. I am sorry for her that he passed away, that must have been quite difficult. Hopefully her new Man treats her right and she can enjoy her time with him.BeachMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17936777379292996065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-65011287544416807802007-09-02T08:28:00.000-05:002007-09-02T08:28:00.000-05:00I clicked over to you from Jen's at One Plus Two b...I clicked over to you from Jen's at One Plus Two because I loved your comment there. I'm glad I did. I love this post and can't wait to check out your archives.Her Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04891923995709831206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-40824776308399132652007-09-02T06:22:00.000-05:002007-09-02T06:22:00.000-05:00WOW. I can't believe he was so specific on what he...WOW. I can't believe he was so specific on what he wanted to eat. It wasn't like "I am allergic to shellfish" but more "Make me roast and potatoes!" Snort.<BR/><BR/>I love this post because since my divorce, I have actually "renegotiated" within myself, my relationship with my parents as well. Upon helping my mom move the last few days (I feel a post coming on about this), I have suddenly felt yet another transition in knowing her as a person and not just a mom. As in, role reversal.Stepping Over the Junkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09165163020885309533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-2803708034908577442007-09-02T06:15:00.000-05:002007-09-02T06:15:00.000-05:00Wow. It seems a couple of my blogging friends are ...Wow. It seems a couple of my blogging friends are intent on teaching me a thing or two about grace and love (you being one of them). I am humbled and appreciative. Very well and sensitively told.Lone Grey Squirrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16892067644551128013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-89014556069451296872007-09-02T00:18:00.000-05:002007-09-02T00:18:00.000-05:00lessons (and inspirations) are all around us aren'...lessons (and inspirations) are all around us aren't they?<BR/><BR/>you. your mom. so many things.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-24136580552633153482007-09-01T17:21:00.000-05:002007-09-01T17:21:00.000-05:00All I can say is...hey - if at 67 your mother was ...All I can say is...hey - if at 67 your mother was capable of finding a boyfriend who was also a good kisser, you gotta forgive her rose coloured glasses. Here at 48, I'm thinking that if something happens to my hubby, I'm alone for life...maybe not if I can overlook a few flaws...Jeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320507412459242451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-90066754446146306842007-08-31T23:45:00.000-05:002007-08-31T23:45:00.000-05:00I'm sorry. If it helps, I know *exactly* how you f...I'm sorry. If it helps, I know *exactly* how you felt about your mom's relationship with Beau. I've been there Anyway, I hope the new relationship is better, for your sake as much as for hers. But the best you can do for her is just support her and try to make her as happy as possible. Your kids aren't going to absorb bad manners or bigotry from spending a few hours around some boob, but they will benefit from having their grandma happy and active in their lives.<BR/><BR/>Good luck, hon. *Hug*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-77100793308409425432007-08-31T12:56:00.000-05:002007-08-31T12:56:00.000-05:00what gorgeous babies! come hang out with us at ou...what gorgeous babies! come hang out with us at our tiny house on the east coast anytime. Is it wrong that I breathed a sigh of relief when I read about the beau dying? Yes,probably but- WTF? He could be related to my MIL, when I asked how her trip to Vegas was a few years okay she said, "Great, we saw the two fags with the tigers." ?!!urban-urchinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18001320142893492171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-48086620272258142432007-08-31T10:54:00.000-05:002007-08-31T10:54:00.000-05:00First of all, that photo of Girl and Wee Niblet is...First of all, that photo of Girl and Wee Niblet is adorable. That said, on to your mom's situation: I truly don't know if I could have kept my mouth shut and listen to that guy; I hate conflict, but he sounded like a real jerk. It must have taken a lot of determination on your part not to say anything, and that shows how much you really love your mom. I hope she finds what she's looking for, and that it's <I>not</I> David Hasselhoff.Mother Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09648404612737553605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-50061648378321055912007-08-31T09:50:00.000-05:002007-08-31T09:50:00.000-05:00I admire your maturity. I don't think I could hav...I admire your maturity. I don't think I could have handled all the things that happened without things getting ugly. Your family is a lot better for it too. Bravo.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16927671598473871081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-20037491998852912342007-08-31T09:14:00.000-05:002007-08-31T09:14:00.000-05:00Sometimes it sucks being an adult, huh?!? All that...Sometimes it sucks being an adult, huh?!? All that work to create new relationships with parents. Seems like there ought to be an easier way! LOLEmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14063254538593495040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-16672760183744753212007-08-31T08:24:00.000-05:002007-08-31T08:24:00.000-05:00See, it'd be so very easy to just get caught up in...See, it'd be so very easy to just get caught up in the anger and the bitterness and not see it for what it really was, desperate loneliness and the need to be desired by someone. I'm really glad you were able to do so. Many daughters would't have been able to. I'm guessing your relationship with your mother is better as a result.<BR/><BR/>Of course, I could just be talking out my ass. <BR/><BR/>I hope she finds someone who truly makes her bloom. (Of course it goes without saying that someone should not be a bigoted pig nor have Smarmy Hollywood brewed deep in his soul.)Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08273493776473085128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33559037.post-82446702320368534282007-08-31T08:06:00.000-05:002007-08-31T08:06:00.000-05:00Your house is our house. Always open, always full....Your house is our house. Always open, always full.<BR/><BR/>As for your mother, it's great you didn't judge her, but personally I would draw the line at David Hasselhoff. Seriously, J, there are limits.Jazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14644896022880634803noreply@blogger.com